Why I’m Not a Feminist

I live in liberal Boulder, Colorado. No, that’s not right, because that understates just how liberal it is here in my little college town just thirty minutes from Denver. We’re actually ranked one of the five most liberal-friendly cities in the United States. To be fair, I consider myself mostly a liberal Democrat and am accused of being the “L” word all the time when I’m away from the Boulder bubble. But in Boulder, you can’t be too liberal; around here, people see me as a conservative, of all things. Most odd.

It’s the same with being a man and a feminist. I’m all for equal rights, equal pay, self-determinism and all of that, whether someone’s male, female, white, black, gay, transgender or an alien from Planet X. Honestly, it’s hard for me to understand why anyone wouldn’t support equal pay and equal rights.

Back in the 1960s, advocating for equal rights would have given me the right to wear a “feminist” button and I would have gotten zero pushback. Heck, I’d have been celebrated as an enlightened man. Add to that my support for minority rights as a white man? Another button, and this time a high five for being one of the good guys.

That’s unlikely to happen today. Feminism hasn’t stood still; the movement has morphed into something that is less about equality and more about the oppression of the group who have historically oppressed women. Namely: men.

Consider the signs from the recent Women’s March on Washington, D.C. (I feel I must say: I loved that tens of thousands of women marched and I completely support them; I have nothing but gratitude for the fact that I live in a country where the march happened, where it was completely legal and, most notably, non-violent).

For many supporters, the march was about gender equality, health care and continued legal rights and protections for historical oppressed minority groups like those who are LGBTQ. That’s all completely in alignment with my own beliefs and concerns and I’ve got their backs.

Unfortunately, a lot of the women at the march didn’t stop there. One big issue that the feminist agenda has assumed is abortion rights. If you’re not an abortion supporter, whether veiled in the rhetoric of “pro-choice” or not, you’re not a feminist. In fact, there were feminists who were asked not to participate in the march because they were pro-life.

So what are the key feminist beliefs in 2017? Feminist.org explains that while the group’s slogan is “political, economic and social equality for all” the tenets of the group include “safe, legal and accessible abortion”, “preservation of the environment [including] elimination of chemical and nuclear weaponry” and, the one that bothers me the most, support for “workers collective bargaining”.

Now I’m not a fan of nuclear weapons, but why are environmental issues, abortion and support of unions (which implies that factory owners and other people in management roles are the enemy) added to the principles of the group? These don’t sound like feminist views as much as the basic platform of the Democratic Party, particularly its more liberal constituents.

Add to that the fact that feminists now promote the ridiculous notion that all men are potential rapists, that we spend our days wallowing in “male privilege” (when those of us who are white are not also enjoying our “white privilege,” that is). Are you a white male? You’re the scum of the Earth. So much for equality and inclusiveness.

So what’s a white male liberal who supports gender and race equality to do when I’m not in perfect alignment with the staunch feminist agenda? I’m just going to stick with my own values and beliefs. I will try to be okay with being labeled as someone who isn’t really a feminist and is just enjoying my white, male privilege.

But it’s too bad that that is what feminism has become. It’s always better to hear the cares, concerns and beliefs of the other side than to vilify them and shut down the dialogue. If someone asks me if I’m a feminist, given what feminism represents today, I’m afraid I’ll have to say no.


  • billyhollis

    I’m not sure this position is going to fly. You Will Be Made To Care.

  • Charlie Hurd

    Pretty much describes my beliefs about feminism. I started out by supporting it, but now think it’s destructive.

    • ThewlynOh ✓certifiable

      welcome to the club my friend 🙂

      actually, i support feminism, just not THOSE feminists…

      • m a

        Equity Feminists. Christina Hoff Somers, Camille Paglia….

    • Raptor Jesus

      Women now believe their own bullshit – that women are as fast, capable, strong, and competent as men.

      IRL your average woman has the IQ of a cocker spaniel.

  • Men never oppressed women. Men have protected and provided for women throughout history, right up until the time that men made the entire first world safe for everyone, after which feminists jumped out and rewrote the history of thousands of years of protection and privilege into a history of oppression. Feminism has been a sham promoted by hateful bigots since the beginning.

  • skhpcola

    Contemporary feminism is simply misandry writ large. These hags aren’t pursuing equality for themselves, they seek to punish and impose tyranny upon men. They will either fail and gain unhappiness, or win and gain beta p**sy men who can’t function without their surrogate mommy instructing them. Modern feminists are evil hags, just like the BLM and SJW brigades that empower them.

  • patriarchal landmine

    remind me to write an article about why I don’t chop babies up with an axe, as if it’s some kind of grand accomplishment.

    • BannedbyBreitbart

      Actually, not chopping babies with an axe would get you uninvited from the next women’s march.

  • Constitution First

    “Teach women not to rape” As if men are the only rapists.

    • ThewlynOh ✓certifiable

      all you have to do is ask google about female teachers getting it on with students, it’s become the new dating opportunity for single females in their 20’s (and sometimes, older)

  • CountMeAmused

    Errr…. women already earn equal pay (its illegal to do otherwise). Women consume more resources then men, particularly healthcare (groomed to believe their lady parts are trying to kill them). Women can murder another person and get away with it. Women live dramatically longer. Women enjoy homes, buildings, roads, planes, cars, etc largely designed and built by men.

    Sounds to me like your marching spirit is misdirected there Sparky. We need a MENS march.

    • m a

      Equal pay act of 1963. Only folks not complying seemed to have been the Clinton foundation and her campaign, and Obama’s campaign.

  • Estoy Listo

    It feels so good to have someone to blame, and men are about the only ones left who are socially acceptable to blame. Well, make that men and conservatives.

    • DevilDog Ding

      And Christians. Don’t forget Christians. Men and women both.

      • Estoy Listo

        Especially Christians. When you consider how much good Christians do for society, that one’s especially galling.

  • Forbes

    >”Back in the 1960s, advocating for equal rights would have given me the right to wear a “feminist” button and I would have gotten zero pushback.”

    Seemingly the writer isn’t old enough to have experienced the 1960s, or he wouldn’t have written such silliness. Wearing a “feminist” button in the ’60s was no less a part of the political progressive left (then known as liberalism) than it is today. Whether calling it pushback, or pity (for a man wearing a ‘feminist’ button), there was plenty to go around.

    All that has changed is the tolerance for outrageous behavior is much higher today than in the ’60s. Concordantly, feminists have to scream louder and make more demands than previously in order to register attention. Outrage is still going to 11 on the 10 scale, the public has merely recalibrated the 10 scale…

  • Dave M.

    The jihadis that tolerant “liberals” like the author feel have a due process right to enter the U.S. will do away with “modern feminism.”

  • You forgot how much “feminists” supported many political women, like: Sarah Palin (self-made + mother); Carly Fiorina; Michelle Bachmann, Mia Love …

    “Feminists” are no longer a big tent for all women, they are anti-men faction of the Democrats. I think there were far more kids at the March for Life than for the Women’s March (for?? uh, against Trump?).

    Demographics is destiny, it will take a few more generations before the pro-life and their descendants are decisively more numerous than the culture of death pro-abortion folk, but it’s very likely to happen.