Why OkCupid’s Trump Filter is Bad for Romance

To celebrate Valentine’s Day this year, the online dating website OkCupid introduced new features designed to help users “connect on a deeper level.” The changes include a new category of questions for users to answer, which in turn gives potential matches a better understanding of their personalities and—most crucially —their political beliefs. OkCupid users can … Continued


In Defense of Online Dating

There are two virtual realities we regularly encounter today. The first is the insidious one described by Ross Douthat in “The Virtues of Reality,” in which a myriad of human activities is mediated by social media; a virtual reality that discloses an unreal ideal self and obscures the real. “The trends in the marketplace—ever-more-customized pornography, … Continued


How to Make the Perfect Online Dating Profile

Everyone’s doing online dating these days. Here’s a guide for how to make a cool profile. You’re welcome! Photo 1: A duo selfie with your (no offense) objectively more attractive and (preferably) much shorter friend. Photo 2: A large group photo of same attractive friend and at least nine other people of the same gender … Continued


Tinder’s Reverse Sexism and the Male Self Esteem Deficit

Tinder and other online dating apps are, conceptually speaking, less sophisticated versions of Pokémon Go. They both involve catching strange creatures with magic while staring at your phone, as far as I can tell. At least Pokémon Go gives you an incentive to go outside. Because there’s nothing forcing you to actually go on any … Continued


“Online Dating”: A.K.A. Free Labor for NY Women

Online dating can feel like a chore sometimes. First you have to look at pictures of a bunch of strangers and read their profiles, then you have to send a few witty text messages, and then, if everything goes well, you have to take some precious time after a long day of work or (even … Continued


Tinder, Dating, and Emotional Castration

By the time I have kids who are teenagers, I expect I’ll have to have the talk. I’ll have to explain that when a couple has sex—a scenario they’ll probably need no mechanical details about, thanks to YouTube videos on smart phones swapped between second graders—it’s OK if they don’t merely enjoy themselves but actually … Continued


Are We Finally Unhooking from Hook Up Culture?

Valentine’s Day is over—the chocolate is gone, the candles are burned out, and the flowers are wilting. So with all those romantic distractions out of the way, let’s talk about sex. Specifically, let’s talk about the last decade, and how Americans’ views on sex and relationships have changed over the course of the last ten … Continued


Why Political Dating Apps are a Terrible Idea

It goes without saying that 2016 will be a consequential year in American history. We might elect the first female president in our nation’s history ever to be indicted for mishandling state secrets. Or, we might finally be able to look our young billionaires and reality show stars in the eye and tell them: “See, … Continued

Culture, Politics

Why Millennial Women Want to Date Older Men

The recent Vanity Fair article detailing the more lurid underbelly of online dating—the barrage of dick pics, the endless swiping, the death of romance—was grim, if not horrific. Dating, Vanity Fair would have you believe, is evolving into an elaborate charade of deception: Everybody is petrified of giving someone the “wrong idea.” Men are impolite … Continued


The Fault in our Genes: Finding a Mate in Modern America

In a recent article at Slate.com, Gary Marchant and Yvonne Stevens discuss a new trend in online matchmaking: pairing up customers based on their genetic makeup. “Two companies (Instant Chemistry and SingldOut) have made a media splash with their launch of a new direct-to-consumer genetic testing service to help determine compatibility in intimate relationships. SingldOut is an online … Continued