Tinder, Dating, and Emotional Castration

By the time I have kids who are teenagers, I expect I’ll have to have the talk. I’ll have to explain that when a couple has sex—a scenario they’ll probably need no mechanical details about, thanks to YouTube videos on smart phones swapped between second graders—it’s OK if they don’t merely enjoy themselves but actually … Continued

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Organizing a “SlutWalk” Doesn’t Mean You’re Empowered

Ladies and gentlemen, mark your calendars—Amber Rose just announced she’ll be organizing yet another “SlutWalk” this fall in downtown Los Angeles. Not familiar with Amber Rose? She’s a stripper turned dancer-model-actress who was propelled to mainstream celebrity status thanks mainly to her prior disastrous relationships with Kanye West and Wiz Khalifa. Not sure what a … Continued

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Guess What, Feminists? Young Women Pornify Themselves

One sunny June morning, as I sat in the plush chair of my neighborhood nail salon and luxuriated in the warm water bathing my feet, I picked up my iPhone and noticed a new app—“Kik”—that my 14-year-old son must have installed after losing his phone and hijacking mine for a few days. Out of curiosity, … Continued

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Are We Finally Unhooking from Hook Up Culture?

Valentine’s Day is over—the chocolate is gone, the candles are burned out, and the flowers are wilting. So with all those romantic distractions out of the way, let’s talk about sex. Specifically, let’s talk about the last decade, and how Americans’ views on sex and relationships have changed over the course of the last ten … Continued

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Now You Can Get an STD Check after Hooking Up with a Stranger!

Chlamydia and gonorrhea, meet your match—Tinder is taking you on. The infamous “dating” app recently added an STD testing center locator to help users find their way to local screening clinics. Tinder, you see, cares deeply about the sexual health and wellbeing of their nearly fifty million users. At least that’s what they want you … Continued

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The Ballad of the Aging Bachelor

Have you ever wondered what it’s like to be reasonably wealthy and well-educated but not entirely satisfied in life because you’re single and, even worse, pretty old? (Not old, exactly, but definitely too old to set foot on a party bus or have a Snapchat account.) Well, the New York Times is on it, exploring … Continued

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Is there a “Man Deficit” in the U.S.?

Many factors go into choosing where you want to live—job opportunities, cost, weather, proximity to family, and even sometimes sports teams. Fortune magazine contributor Jon Birger, author of the new book DATE-ONOMICS: How Dating Became a Lopsided Numbers Game, suggests that men and women might want to take another factor into account—the sex ratio. Birger … Continued

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Is Rihanna a Prude?

Rihanna is a prude. At least that’s what she wants us to think. In an interview in this month’s issue of Vanity Fair, the singer/songwriter gets intimate and tries to clarify what the magazine calls the “chasm between her reality and her reputation.” The writer questions Rihanna about her “bad-girl reputation,” and queries whether her … Continued

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Should Sexting be a Crime?

No one will ever know what happened last year at St. Paul’s school between Harvard-bound student Owen Labrie, then 18, and his classmate, age 15. Was their sexual encounter the result of a misogynistic prep-school culture in which boys preyed on younger girls, “slaying” them in rituals like the Senior Salute? Or was theirs a … Continued

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