Bestselling author, mother of three, Christian blogger, and motivational speaker Glennon Doyle Melton has married soccer star Abby Wambach. Melton’s new lifestyle is being celebrated in the media, particularly in a gushing new profile in Elle called, “The Gospel According to Glennon.” (The story is not yet available online).
The problem isn’t Melton’s homosexuality or that she came to understand it late in life. It’s the glib way the media is celebrating the destruction of her marriage. In an age of narcissistic self-empowerment, husbands and children are an afterthought. And in the name of political correctness, men in particular too often meekly accept their demoted status.
Indeed, the worst part of the Glennon Melton affair is how Melton’s ex-husband, Craig, has quietly acquiesced to his own neutering. It’s reminiscent of the Georgetown University student who in 2014 said he understood why he was mugged because he lived “from a perch of privilege.” The dogma of political correctness and the enabling Cult of Oprah and Self-Affirmation are just too powerful to resist, even at the cost of your manhood.
Glennon Melton became popular in 2011 writing Momastery, a Christian “mommy blog.” She authored two memoirs: Carry On, Warrior, about her decades-long battles with substance abuse and bulimia; and Love Warrior, about the disintegration of her marriage to Craig Melton, with whom she has three children. Glennon Melton is extremely popular on the self-help lecture circuit and is friends with Oprah. She met Wambach in 2016—“I’ve never believed in or understood romantic love,” Melton told Elle. “Love at first sight has always been a complete joke to me. But when Abby walked into that room, I actually felt the words There she is. This was just an absolute recognizing of the person I was supposed to be with forever.”
Elle isn’t the only media outlet celebrating Melton’s newfound love; a media party has broken out, with People magazine, New York magazine, and many other outlets enthusing over the wedding news. Elizabeth Gilbert, self-help guru and author of Eat, Pray, Love—and someone who also left her husband for a woman—called Melton, who is now heavily into liberal activist causes, “the next Gloria Steinem.” Elle notes that one fan even compared Melton to the Blessed Virgin Mary.
The Elle profile does contain a few brief paragraphs expressing doubt about “The Gospel According to Glennon.” The piece introduces us to some heretics, people who say Glennon has “a fame addiction” and a messiah complex. Christianity Today accused her of preaching “the gospel of self-fulfillment.” They’re probably correct. As the piece notes, Glennon picked a rather selfish and twenty-first century way to end her marriage. Craig Melton describes getting an urgent text from Glennon saying she had news for him, which turned out to be a revelation about her homosexuality:
When he found out it wasn’t cancer, “I hit the floor bawling,” he says. “I was just so happy she wasn’t going to die.” Then came a wave of “sadness, confusion, and anger,” he says. “I thought we had been doing things the right way. Both of us had been working on ourselves. We entered a phase that was supposed to be a new life for us. It was a shock. It felt like the end of the world.”
But eventually, Craig says, he felt he had no choice but to accept his new reality. Glennon and Abby are, after all, “two women following their hearts,” he says, slipping into Glennon-speak. “Isn’t that what life is all about? Finding true love? If Glennon is happy, and Abby is happy, and the kids are thriving, what’s wrong with that?”
To which one might respond: For God’s sake, man! Glennon is not my wife—thank God—but Craig Melton’s acceptance is pathetic. He did have a choice about this “new reality.” As any man in love with a woman who is the mother of his children would do, he could have questioned how good Glennon’s new life is for their kids, or even herself. He could have gotten drunk for three days or bought a Porsche or bought a club in Casablanca and nursed a resentment for a good long time. At the very least, Craig Melton could have expressed the one thing about his wife’s self-actualized lesbian Valhalla that the Cult of Oprah won’t tolerate: Doubt.