It’s time to stop pitying Huma Abedin.
The wife of laughing stock, failed politician Anthony Weiner, Abedin was once a glamorous, high powered political operative with a loving husband and an adorable new baby. But things came crashing down in 2011 when her then-Congressman husband was found to be sending explicit pictures of himself to a twenty-one-year-old in Seattle. He was forced to resign. Things deteriorated further when Weiner tried to re-enter New York politics in 2013 and was found to be doing the same thing, only with the alias “Carlos Danger.” Finally, in 2016, he was sexting a woman while his toddler son was sleeping next to him.
The fact that Abedin has stayed with her husband through most of this is admirable to some and puzzling to others. But the fact that throughout the ordeal she remained almost entirely silent to the media about these personal matters seemed clearly praiseworthy.
Now it turns out she’s just been holding out for the right price. Abedin is reportedly meeting with literary agents to sell her memoirs. She’s hoping for around $2 million. And publishers are salivating at the chance to bid on the juicy tale. She has the support of her former employer Hillary Clinton and so she will presumably be able to reveal not only personal details but also the political machinations that went on behind the scenes of the Hillary presidential campaign.
“She’s more interesting than her husband. We know who he is. She’s the ongoing mystery,” Princeton University presidential historian Julian Zelizer told the Hollywood Reporter. “But she’ll have to put herself out there. That’s what the publisher will be looking for.”
Ugh. The last saving grace of this family was that Abedin was not putting herself out there. We didn’t have to learn every last gory detail of how she found out about his sexting, their fights over it, how he has sought treatment, her agonizing over whether to take him back, how all of this has hurt her career. Obviously, Huma talked about these matters with her friends and family, but none had betrayed her confidences. She was struggling in a difficult situation with quiet dignity.
Sources told the New York Post in March that the couple were trying to reconcile. “Huma has been working hard on her relationship with Anthony,” said a source close to the Abedin family. “He has been spending 80 to 90 percent of his time at the [Irving Place apartment] they share … If there is a disagreement, he goes to his mother’s apartment in Brooklyn.”
It is hard to imagine how publishing a tell-all memoir, going on a book tour, and doing speaking engagements will help her marriage. No doubt the spotlight will only renew the pressure on the couple.
One might presume that Abedin’s reticence up until this point was not only for her own sake but also for that her of her young son, who didn’t need the world to know about the intimate details of his parents’ marriage. He is only four years old now, but kids grow up quickly and though it will be hard for him to escape the shadow of his father’s misdeeds, his mother might at least give him a fighting chance.