Don’t Be a Pessimist About Love and Marriage

Is Romanticism the bane of happy marriages? Without a doubt. At least, that’s the argument philosopher Alain de Botton made last week in the New York Times. The piece struck a nerve with everyone I asked about it; the fact that it remained the most-read story for days after it was published makes me confident … Continued


How Two New Movies Explain the Meaning of Marriage

Imagine a world where marriage is mandated even in the absence of love—or just save yourself the trouble and go see the new film, The Lobster. Directed by the Greek satirist Yorgos Lanthimos (Oscar-nominated in 2011 for his provocative Dogtooth) and starring a paunchy, mustachioed Colin Farrell, The Lobster posits just such a dystopian future, … Continued

Entertainment, Movies

Melania Trump’s Insulting Advice to America’s Wives

What is “nagging?” It depends whom you ask. If you ask a husband (my own declined to comment for this piece; “It’s a trap!” he said) they might answer: “It’s when my wife badgers me over, and over, and over to do something.” A wife might define the term in this manner: “It’s what I … Continued


Ladies, You Need to Stop Husband-Shaming

Over the years, in posts on Facebook groups for mothers, I’ve seen my share of women talking smack about their husbands. Writing to hundreds (sometimes thousands) of other women, many of whom they don’t know, wives will unburden themselves about the latest insensitive things their husbands have done. The complaints run the gamut from real … Continued


No, You Don’t Need a Huge Engagement Ring

As wedding season looms, it’s worth reconsidering some of our more materialistic marriage rituals, especially the expectation that a woman should receive an enormous engagement ring. In an age that prioritizes weddings over marriages and has no qualms about the idea of a “starter marriage,” it should come as no surprise that we’ve embraced the … Continued


Are Open Marriages like Mo’Nique’s Bad for Children?

The accepted definition of marriage has changed so dramatically and so quickly that perhaps a new podcast about an unusual celebrity marriage is unworthy of comment. Then again, even by Hollywood standards, this one is unique. The marriage has lasted 11 years and is an open relationship where the two spouses are also engaged in … Continued

Celebrities, Culture

Leonardo DiCaprio’s Laissez-Faire Marriage Plans

Fresh off his “Best Actor” Golden Globes win for his role in The Revenant, Leonardo DiCaprio finds himself in a minor maelstrom surrounding his stated views on having children. From the New York Daily News: “Do you mean do I want to bring children into a world like this?” he replied to a query about … Continued