Are Fathers Becoming Less Manly?

Last week I took all three of my little girls into a supermarket, where another man noticed me pushing a cart around with two kids in it and wearing a third one on my chest in a baby harness. “Superdad!” he called out, with a thumbs-up. I was rather proud of that since being the … Continued

Culture, Parenting

Death by Patriarchy?

A new study from Rutgers University finds that men are less likely than women to go to the doctor, more likely to choose a male doctor when they do go, and less likely to be honest with that doctor about their symptoms. Who is to blame? The patriarchy, of course! As New York magazine put … Continued


Behold: Pinterest Man (and the Death of Masculinity)

Listen up, people! I’m pretty sure that I already explained why co-ed baby showers are not as “totally awesome” as your hipster sister-in-law from Nashville (or Seattle, Brooklyn, etc.) would have you believe. And yet it seems that this unfortunate cultural phenomenon persists. What gives? From Some dads-to-be feel alienated or left out of … Continued


What Kind of Male Role Model Would a President Trump Be?

No one in the public eye is currently driving more media attention and polarized debate than presidential aspirant, reality TV star, and billionaire real estate mogul Donald Trump. His arrogance inspires rabid admiration and visceral disgust in equal measure. Many are horrified by the prospect that, as President, the bullying Trump might prove to be … Continued

Celebrities, Culture

‘Star Wars’ and the Crisis of Masculinity

Why did Kylo Ren turn evil? That’s a central unanswered question of Star Wars: The Force Awakens. Ren is the film’s villain, a young acolyte of the late Darth Vader. (Spoiler alert: He is also the son of two of the film’s famous characters, whose names I’m going to reveal). Kylo Ren is the son … Continued

Culture, Entertainment, Movies

Glitter Beards and the Death of Masculinity

  Ladies, lock your doors. Mothers, close your craft closets. Girls, guard your scrapbooks. Everyone, avoid Hobby Lobby and preschools—the men are coming, and they’re coming for your glitter. For some unknown reason, grown men all over America are stuffing their bearded faces into heaps of sparkly glitter, snapping selfies, and trying to convince themselves, … Continued

Culture, Fashion, Politics

Should We Eradicate Manhood?

For all the ginned-up outrage in the news about a supposed “war on women,” there is a gender assault underway that elicits precious little media attention, much less outrage: a war on men—or more specifically, on masculinity itself. The notion that manhood in a man’s world is threatened may seem laughable, but condemnations of it … Continued


Why Today’s Man Still Needs ‘Iron John’

DaCapo press is about to issue a twenty-fifth anniversary edition of Iron John, the classic book about men by poet Robert Bly. Hopefully, an entire new generation of men will discover Bly’s work, which is more relevant than ever. I was reminded of just how much Bly’s voice is needed when I stumbled across a … Continued

Books, Culture

Masculinity Under Siege

Last Friday the New York Times Men’s Style section published an article that I’m still desperately hoping is satire: “27 Ways to Be a Modern Man.” If it’s not, then the state of modern manliness is a sorry one indeed. We’ll get to that article in a moment; it wasn’t the only recent commentary on … Continued


How Feminism Created the Manic Pixie Dream Boy

Journalist Anne Breslaw has written a funny piece for New York magazine, “Beware the Manic Pixie Dream Boyfriend.”  Briefly summarized, her thesis is that an artsy and eccentric guy might be charming but is ultimately a bad choice for a boyfriend. Breslaw describes this roaming, poetry-reading person as “the self-mythologizing ‘free-spirited’ dude who’s determined to make … Continued